Counseling - The Untouched Male

A normal mother has the affection of her children to give her some emotional support. It's also typical for healthy women to have friends that they can provide supportive hugs to. The hug often says much more than words could ever hope to.

Men have very few options for healthy physical touch. Italians and Greeks are an exception. In those places, openly showing affection is normal and acceptable.

Throughout the workday, men can experience little more than a handshake. A man can go days and weeks without ever being touched by another human being.

Consider for a moment how this situation could affect a marriage. Let's assume the couple has young children. Whether the wife is working outside the home or not, she is giving and receiving physical affirmation often. It's not uncommon for her to feel the need to have some breaks from having small children hanging on her.

Now her husband comes home from work and he hasn't touched another human being all day. He wants to be touched. A disagreement regarding sex is now highly probable. She feels they had sex just a couple days ago and for him it feels like weeks. A man's options for affection are very limited. Our wives are our primary source.

So the wife feels over stimulated and the husband feels starved.

What can be done?

Ladies, it's essential to create the habit of touching your husband. Make it a top priority. A man craves more than anything the acceptance of his wife. If he doesn't feel he's getting this, he will eventually give up putting effort into the relationship.

Schedule regular times for sex with your husband like you would any other important appointment. Keep your commitments. This idea may not live up to your idea of fantasy. That's not what's most important to men. Men aren't getting any physical affection if they don't receive it from you. As a result, they may look for it elsewhere.

Men, don't pretend like you don't have a need for non sexual physical contact from your wife or from other human beings. There should be no sense of embarressment for needing physical touch. It does not mean you are weak and therefore flawed.

Learn to touch your wife physically in ways that don't lead directly to sex. Do it because you want to show her how much you care and like to be near her, not just because you want to have sex.


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Chris Keenan is the founder of low cost - risk free relationship help at http://www.easyrelationshiphelp.com and is a regular guest on radio. Get your free copy of "How to Prevent Your Relationship From Losing Value" at http://www.easyrelationshiphelp.com